Child Abuse .. it's so hard to go on

his post is very clear and nothing to misunderstand about it

 

No it's not really, I am going through the same stuff that regina is going and trust me we all have a way to deal with these kind of stuff, I personally get really heated up and have to talk to someone about it to unleash my nerves and after that I am trying to make myself feel better while trying to laugh or joke about it, trying to find a funny spot in all of it.

I hate child abuse and I'm totally against it.

I also think that you shouldn't judge people if you don't know them or didn't get what they were trying to say.

 

Today was the last day of school ..
And honestly, i just got out of the shower and when i was showering
I heard my parents mention my name and they sounded like they were raging (nts: never having music on so loud)
The thought of involving my school into this just makes me feel even worse

Ill see if i can contact a school counsellor though

 

Not in every country is democracy , you cant imagine what happens in other countries for example in Russia most of parrents are alcoholics and in China children are working from 5-6 years , 12 hours ++ per day. This happened to me a lot of time and I endured my problems, now I'm 17 years old and everything changed, I know how to speak right with them and when to make a fool.

 

regi, you know you live in australia now right? you can actually call the cops or child abuse and say that stuff and ur parents can get in trouble (not kidding , jail if needed)

here even if u hear a dog crying next door, you call animal protection and they come sue those bastards

I'm not being racist, but I know that asian parents are rough on theyr kids, something that Australians hate soo much, so you can do something bout it here

 

well sir every person has its own personality, I'm pretty sure you haven't been what I've been to, it was like everyday was a nightmare to me, you guys are lucky you only get slapped by your parents.

and I am not judging anyone, sir.

 

It's not so much child abuse, it's more like old school parenting methods and our parents had it much worse than we did. Does that make it ok? No ofc not. But when she looks back on a few slaps when she's older she'll see it differently. Teenage years are only temporary and once you're out of them you realise they're also very short. Once you're out of it, no one has the right to touch you, control your life, or make your decisions.

This is all quite common. There are kids who have to actually witness a lot of violence, being punched to the point of passing out, hit with objects, emotionally abused and manipulated etc and trust me being slapped would be a walk in the park compared to that. She just needs to hang in there until she's old enough to tell him to keep his hands to himself. Or seek some advice from a professional if it is actually detrimental to her emotional/physical well-being.

 

Its something i would do but i cant do.

 

well have a look here and here.

And you can, just because your under 18, doesnt mean u cant call the cops and say " oh my dad is abusing me and im sick of it."

 

And after her dad will be unjailed, how she will look into his eyes ?

 

Do you think a dad like that deserves a daughter like Regina ?

I think not.

 

Tell me what's the real reason why did he slapped you? I'm a father of 3 kids maybe I could help you.

 

siriusly its never ok to hit a child what so ever it doesent matter what age u are or manipulate them.thats how u **** up a childs youth

 

We do not choose parents.

 

awsome reply.couldent have said it better

 

Depends on the culture you have in your family, most asian parents in asian country do these kinds of things.
When i was a kid my mom hit me ONLY if i do wrong, but never until i'm crippled or bleeding, and only on several parts like legs, arms, and butt >_< (TMI) As years gone by i barely got hit (during end of middle school and highschool) and never got hit anm since i'm on 12th grade-now. The thing is, depends on how severe it is, but punishments done should never cross the line into abusing.

More over you got hit in the face. As a father he should show his respect to women starting by respecting his wife and daughter.
If he keeps on ignoring your rights and abusing you, it's time to do something.

 

if you won't give the kid a lesson he/she will not grow up.

 

Learn English or don't bother replying to my posts. I've been through much worse than this personally actual physical violence from my father when I was much younger and while it has had a profound effect on my life, I can tell you now that I came out of it perfectly fine. I'm much stronger because of it and I will make sure my daughter and future children never have to go through anything even remotely close. From what she describes it is simply bad parenting. It's all personal though, I understand everyone deals with things differently and like I said "seek some advice from a professional if it is actually detrimental to her emotional/physical well-being."

 

a parent should know that you only hit a child in the butt/palms.

 

Because i'm not allowed to speak my mind and try to negotiate with my parents about the issues we have at home.
They dont want my opinion about this family.
If you live in the house, you take care of it.
its like the house is more important than me

Their sanity as well