Child Abuse .. it's so hard to go on

Stop pointing who's wrong, think about this Regi if you will call the police, what do you think will happen? your family will be torn apart. Do you want to have a broken family?

Ill just suggest go talk nicely with your father and ask why did he slapped you.

 

Regii, im sorry big brother isn't there to help ;_; you can has hug if it means anything? <3

You won't grow up scarred, at least not emotionally, I know you're too strong for that, and I know that as soon as you get your independence you're going to have a great life ;3

Getting there..may suck..but I know you can do it and big brother and all the rest of the family are here to help you through it. As far as I'm concerned, you're a woman of the Gamez watch now.

Anyway, hope that crap will stop for you soon, and again we're here for you ;3, you'll always be loved in our family.

 

Parents bought us in the world, but it'll be the children who'll have to face reality. I'll show respect and unconditional love to a parent when they fulfil their part, being a parent.

 

dude this is shit. how many times did i say wrong things and got like slapped or caused an accident? if its consantly every day report it if not learn ur lesson grow up one day you will appreciate it.. wtf dude..abuse is a diffrent thing lol

 

I regret reading this, it is very sad that you write, maybe "unnecessary."

But there is a God up there watching and is with you.

Now you know that you should not do when you have kids

 

Funny how it seems you're telling me you will respect only if they did something good to you, which is by doing their responsibility as parents not even taking into consideration, "I will respect them because they are my parents, older than me and know more things than me. I will respect them because I will learn from them, and I owe my life to them. If I don't get respect in return then there's something wrong, and for sure, not me!"

What I am saying is, a kid will keep getting hurt, abused if the kid doesn't know how to pay respect to their parents. If the parents did nothing wrong, let's say no work, can't give you food and feed you 3x a day, send you to school with good uniform, money or even send you to a decent school (this is an appropriate example of parents who can not do their responsibility, even how much they want if they weren't able to finish their studies and no work for them or they are ill, it will be really hard for them to give you your needs) it doesn't mean they do not deserve respect?

Don't worry, I have no time for arguements and exchange of our beliefs and perceptions about this matter. Culture has something to do with it that's why we can never have the same point of view about this.

 

Would you respect and love someone who in returns shows you nightmares and madness?

 

No person deserves to get hit by their parents, it happened to all of us here. Some have it worse and some don't. It's not acceptable but it's not something you will have huge difficulty getting over with.
It hurts me so much to see you like this, I'm sorry that you have to put up with him. I love you so much Regina, please don't let them hurt you, talk to a counselor and never be afraid, you're not doing anything wrong.

 

Well i can't say "I know what that feels like" , cause really, i dont, i can't even imagine how horrible it must be. I mean, i wonder what passes into the minds of those people to hit their own daughter ! Fcking god --' if at least it was a boy it would be less horrible, but a fragile girl who just wanna express herself to her parents. That's too much, and to know you're going to live like that for 6 more years , it must be a real nightmare, but hey, talking to friends and people that you really love 'bout things like that are really really helpful...
All i can say is, good luck, and i wish someday they open their eyes to see what horrible things they've been doing .

 

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<3333 cheer up little one, we love you

 

I saw this thread earlier this morning and decided I wasn't going to post on it. After checking back and seeing further developments, I have to put in my two cents.

I don't care who you are, what part of the world you're from, you are still human, and human beings are hardwired to see patterns. Seeing links and connections between various stimuli is a big part of how humans live, that includes navigation, adjudication, etc. Human children aren't meant to be able to live on their own, which is why human children are nurtured for longer than any other animal. Your parents "spank" you because it's the easiest stimuli to relate to, i.e. things you aren't supposed to do = pain. So when you disregard that, and exercise your "independence" by saying you have a "right to free speech, free will" and don't do what they tell you to, you're not only challenging their authority, which in turn questions your respect for them, but you're also questioning their ability to raise you on a fundamental level. You are a child, and this is nothing more than a learning stage. You don't have a concept of what independence even is yet.

Even through thousands of years of development and evolution, humans are animals at heart, that can't be disputed. For years, this guy has been the dominant person, the Alpha Male, in his daughter's life. Suddenly, his begotten is ignoring him and questioning him. That not only hurts as a parent, but it's an insult on that animal level as well.

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Your parents discipline you and give you chores to make you a competent, functioning member of society. He instinctively wants to protect you and is doing it the best possible way - by hardening you for life. I don't know what disillusions you have about being an adult, but it is not all butterflies and cupcakes, and the sooner you learn that, the better off you will be.

Child abuse is NEVER good, but this case is FAR from being child abuse. It's a typical parent's love. You will be much more grateful for it when you're an adult, trust me.

 

Omg finally... very well said!

 

I went through this a lot when I was a kid.

One time, I was having lunch with my mom. Needless to say, I didn't like fish back then, so I threw the chopstick into a corner. All hell broke loose. She dragged my by the ear to my the front door and locked me out for 30 minutes.

Another time, I got a really (I mean really) low grade for a lit exam at school. My mom and dad were really putting the stress on, to the point that the head of that neighborhood had to come in and talked them out of it.

Or another, when my dad threatened to disown me literally for being the only one in ninth grade who was failing that one test (I can't blame him, I sucked at chem back then). Got a bloody nose and puffed lips after I tried to talk back to him.



But then I grew to love fish (both naturally and forced, I guess), Was the all-city honor student for my elementary career, and earned a medal during 10th grade.

It's somehow my tendency to only do well after being involved in some sort of rough discipline. I don't hold any grudge at them now. "Spare the rod, spoil the child" I guess.

 

i would agree with this on some parts but not much of it.
hitting a child is child abuse no matter what everyone sais if an adult gets beat up its assult so whats the differense btw a child and an adult? siriusly everytime u the adult do something noughty then make sure to have ur parents or someone older then u close by so u can get a couple of slaps and see if that will change ur mind on anything.uneducated and ignorance leads to stupidity

 

Also adding: Asians tend to love their children through discipline.

 

Tautological rhetoric = stupidity. Firstly, it most likely will change the mind of an adult. When you are threatened with pain, due you go ahead and do it anyway? If so, that's being stubborn which probably stemmed from being a spoiled child. Secondly, this is the mind of a child which, especially in the younger stages, absorbs everything, without a concept of defiance or contradiction. That's why life lessons are taught early.

 

He has no idea what your point is. I agree with you, I can see why parents use this method but I don't believe in it. I think it's controlling through fear and there are better ways to discipline. She's a teenager and through her eyes this is all very traumatic, which is typical but you never know the whole story. Anyway automatically jumping to ABUSE is just fuelling the fire definitely not helping her feel better just more mistreated.

 

Discipline, even though that was very harsh.

 

A lot of people's views here are sickening. That's all I have to say..

 

life lessons arent taught through violence.if the parents show their love with violence then they clearly lack the intelligence to have kids in the first place