Child Abuse .. it's so hard to go on

then i would probaly go a course to learn how to become a good parent.either way if ur parents are involved in ur life then u will actully listen to them out of respect no need to raise the hand and put fear in ur kid

 

I'm really surprised by all the people that arn't mature enough or logical enough to know how parenting a child from start to finish (although theres technically no finish to parenting) works. I really can't post here anymore or else I'll get this thread locked by turning it into a massive flame war because of how much my stomach has churned by reading this thread.

 

You must know how to parent then? Or what it takes to be responsible for some ones life?

 

You are from a different culture than regi's and mine.

We view qualities differently. To be honest, if you were the child of a true Asian society, you would have been disowned with your looks.
I'm not disrespecting how you look, the way you dress, etc. but showing you how my society would view you. Please don't take offence.

It might look and sound wrong to you, but it's probably how her and my parents were brought up too.

Good day, miss.

 

Dear Regi. every time i didnt get an A i got beat with a leather belt... every time i did bad things i got slapped in the hand 10 times with a wooden stick, every time i mouthed off i ate salt and something else that burns >_>...the worst is when some one lied about me doing something and i got beat up with a broomstick... >_> i nearly broke some bones..

Trust me.. getting slapped twice is not bad at all compared to the hell some other ppl go through

Oh... after all that i still love my mom <3

And if you want to end it quickly xD i can adopt you rofl.. i legally can.. i have a job o---o.. just no wife..

 

If this is a usual thing for you then you need help.
Australia does have child services, you can talk to your school counselor (as Ashtar suggested) and get this sorted out.
They take these kinds of things very seriously.

I hate to say this, but if it's been going on like this for over two years, then your parents aren't the only ones to blame. I know you, and you're smart enough to look for help when you need it. Get out, and look for it.

I'm sorry for you, if you need help with anything you can always PM me. : (

 

The most I understand from asian cultures is that in most asian countries it's hard to make it in the world and the economy is very demanding and so it requires a lot of discipline and hard work to succeed.

What makes it feel wrong is that she doesn't live in that society anymore, only the household/family. So she's the only one getting that treatment on the regular basis. Doesn't it feel wrong when you're treated like one society but born into another? It'd definitely make me feel conflicted.

(Though this post is ignorant because I don't know if Regi was actually born in her native country or how long she's been outside it)

 

It doesn't matter where she's living. It's her parents, who were raised in the same manner, that are raising her.

How do you raise your children other than the only way you know because you went through it?


Now, I'm sure regi will have more choices in raising her children (if she has hers later on in life), because she's exposed to different cultures.

 

common sense

 

[video=youtube;G2y8Sx4B2Sk]http/www.youtube.com/watch?v=G2y8Sx4B2Sk[/video]

 

Yes but I can't blame her for despising her culture for it or wanting to leave it behind when she's already in another that she finds more appealing.

 

What can she do then? It's not like she can suddenly go "Whoop, I've had enough of your shit. I'm leaving you" and make it on her own.


There are black widows in Aussieland.

 

yea i know what it means u seem not to

 

Again, you don't sound like you know what parents do, so here it is:
[video=youtube;G2y8Sx4B2Sk]http/www.youtube.com/watch?v=G2y8Sx4B2Sk[/video]

 

i do as i am one myself

 

Then please refer back to my statement from which Gracie quoted.

 

u think i would raise my child the way my parents raised me lol? hell no not in a million years

 

I guess she can't for now.. Hum, you made my argument reach a dead end. With that said, I guess there isn't really anything she could do. She could report them, leave them w/e, but to either be left with others in the same family or in foster care is a gamble and can end up worse off. So to Regi all I can say is deal with it the best you can and do whatever your parents tell you. If your father bothers to say you're beautiful then I think he does care.

If you wish to live that life behind, then you can and will later when you can support yourself.

EDIT: But if you're still getting hit when you're doing nothing wrong (talking back etc) then I don't think there can really be any excuse. <.<

 

FTFY

I got shivers thinking about "beautiful".

 

What I am saying is as a child no matter what all I got to do is to pay respect to my parents. That's what we value most in our country, that is one of my principles. As a child I believe there is no reason for our parents to hurt us except if our parents are like those who are in movies. Something like because of you, you ruined their life. Some thoughts like that from stupid and immature parents. I watched a lot of this kind of true stories, parents suddenly beating up kids because they regret having them. Driven due to frustrations and that's a true story. It's hard to talk about the IFs if I have never been there. I don't want to be judged saying "I am saying this because I have never been there" so as your question, I don't know what could be my answer but why don't we take the answer from someone who rose me... My mother.

She grew up from a very poor family. No father, just a mother. My grand mother came from a very good family. Very good. Rich from her times, bratt and stuffs. Fell in love to a handsome Japanese stranger, got pregnant and got abandoned. Before at the old times carrying a baby without a father not even a marriage before it is a disgrace to the society. You will carry the bad image althrough your days living in such place. And it will continue to hunt you down even if you move from one place to another. My grand mother gave birth to my mom, showed no love at first. My mother grew up without anything from her mother, everything is from relatives. My grand mother is so fcking strict like every wrong simple move from my mom she'll beat her to death. But what did my mom do?? Because she loves her mother, she wants to understand what her mother did through and going through, she never fought back yet she paid nothing but respect to her mother. Every single slap she shed tear but in the end she does nothing but cook for her mother and say sorry on whatever she have done wrong to deserve the beating. After awhile, as she's starting to manage to do things on her own, she worked while studying, in a minor age. With her own hard work she managed to make herself graduate Chemical Engineering in one of the known universities in my country. Graduated as one of the best students in her batch not just in her class. And everytime we talk about childhood she always tell us how thankful she is to her mother. That showed her how to live life without silver spoons, and without being fed. She grew up very young. But I guess that was how my grand mother thought of it to make her daughter grow not being like her. My mother graduated first before getting married. Just like what a normal woman should be before establishing her own family. She never did mistakes like what my grand mother did. And until my grandma died, all my mom was saying was Thank You and I love you to her.

That's my mom. I may not be like her, I guess never. But regarding to the question? If I don't know, someone I know knows And it came from someone who have been there. We can not say things if we never been there. What could "not paying respects" to people who hurt us will bring us? What could hate lead us to? Hate for the better? It works for awhile but in the end when you look back, it will make you face nothing but regrets. Loving our parents unconditionally even they are bad is what for us to do as their child and let's say our responsibility. If our parents have their own duties and responsibility, we got ours as well as kids. And this is one of the things I believe in, one of my principles in life. Something I will pass through my generation and blood line. And if someday I will have my child/children and don't get respect in return though I did nothing but to feed them the teachings I learned, there's no one to blame but me, as a parent.