Child Abuse .. it's so hard to go on

The conclusion you came to had already been reached much earlier in the thread :sideways:

 

And I had to argue it in order for myself to come to the same conclusion. Sorry for not conforming so quickly. You going to post something useful or keep at it with your silly little internet vendetta?

 

Ok. I'm not going to ready all of that , so I gave a 'like' cuz I think is something good by the text
Uehara, please write less D:

 

My parents never beat me when i was a kid,not even once,and even though i was a little devil causing trouble EVERYWHERE Xd they showed me things in their own way,still the best parents in the world <3 I also dont believe that you can make your child learn anything by beating it. There is no way to avoid it though,every parent has the right to do his job in his own way,and if u go to police i dont think anything can happen,its 2011 but child abuse inside the family borders isnt a big deal still.. You shouldnt forget that they love you no matter what and they regret beating you. Also obvious but i ll say it,whatever seems big now,after some years will be just a memory and as you grow up this things that seem big now will look much much smaller Kids always think that when something disturbing happens then its the end of the world,but guess what,it is not.

 

Seeing this topic really haunts my past to the point of having the greatest regret in my life.

Well, all I'd have to say would be to cope up until you get to leave and start up on your own, until then, just evade as much as you can. After all, they are family by blood.

 

Im not trying to make things worse but ive noticed that compliments out of my parents mouth towards my brother and i
are just complete bullsh't with sarcasm sauce on top of it.

i actually did sit down and talk to mum once, about schoollife, family life, a personal talk basically.
She didnt take it seriously, she doesnt take anything seriously.

What really happened was mum asked me to go massage her right after packing oranges and buns into plastic bags for an hour and a half. I said to her 'Mum, my hands are really tired, there is no WAY i can give you a massage.' She pretended like she didnt hear me and kept on nagging.
She finally screamed at me and i screamed back

'I KNOW YOUR BACK HURTS NOW, BUT I HAVE HANDS AND LEGS AS WELL. I HAVE A BODY THAT HURTS AS WELL. FROM WHAT? FROM ALL THIS SLAPPING, HITTING, KICKING, BLEEDING AND HURTING FROM YOUR OWN HANDS. IF YOU LOVED ME AS REGINA, AS YOUR OWN DAUGHTER, YOU WOULD TALK TO ME ABOUT OUR PROBLEMS, NOT GO AHEAD AND PHYSICALLY HURT ME FOR SOMETHING IM TRYING TO GET THROUGH YOUR MIND.
IF YOU CAN TALK, WHY CANT I TALK?
IF YOU HAVE YOUR WAYS, WHY CANT I HAVE MINE?
IF YOU HAD TO GO THROUGH SO MUCH PAIN, WHY ARE YOU CAUSING IT?

Alex (my older rl brother) left the house 7 years ago, why?
You couldnt handle the crap in his room. He was your only child back then when he was young.
He had to go through this, nobody was there to help him.
he TOLD me, he hated what you did, and when he left, you wanted him back.
til this day, you still do. Aint happening mother.
He's 25, he can take care of himself now, hes more open-minded now and hes now someone that can actually protect me from you.

Your teachings and ways to discipline children are disgusting mother.
You should be ashamed for what you even did to us.'

bam, dad was just disconnecting the internet and heard me.
Rushed in like a rambo and because he had the modem in his hands, i though he was going to slap me with that.
And for 3 seconds, i couldnt breathe when i needed it to get a hold of myself.
Dad: Say one more thing and i will hit the living crap out of you.

Slapping is just one thing guys.

 

I am sorry about that. i just simply wanted to make a point. It's for Nujabes though, I hope he reads it because that is my answer to his question.

But to sum it all, what I said is simply saying that I can not answer his question (yes, just that yet it's so long) and I told him the childhood story of my mom who I think can answer his question. I don't mind sharing a personal information, no one knows my mom but to be honest, her story is something I am really proud of. Something people should hear, because it's extra ordinary.

I'd love to go further with my explanation because I believe my mom is the best adviser and she does give advice very well because she speaks through her experience and no bullsh*ts. So yes, that kind of woman brought me to life and taught me everything she knows. That is why I value family, and the word respect to parents and elderly. A teaching came from someone who was maltreated. Yet talks about respecting one another

 

I'm sorry Regi <3 :\ I had abusive issues when I came out and whatnot. It's never fun, but there will come a day when you've had enough, and then it's your turn to get back at them.

 

It ain't easy, but for that, better evade as much as possible and cope for a couple of years, get a part time job while you're at it, earn a bit, and then move out once you have enough. Though you have to be sure when to do so.

 

Sounds like they aren't very considerate about their kids hm?
If it's come to that, just pucker up and gtfo of there as soon as you're sure you can take care of yourself.

 

I dont think i can get a job at the age of 12 ._.

 

Yeah there isn't much else I can say. It seems like a dead end for now until you're able to remove yourself from them when you're old enough to live by yourself.

The most I can give is emotional support until then.

 

in that case, better evade as much as you can, that's what can say.

 

Evade .. like how?
Shut up and Do work to avoid trouble?
Isnt that what ive been doing ever since grade prep?

 

xD when i wqas younger my mom used to trow shoes on my back or legs while i was running in circles at the table
now i think thats funny and i understand i was a verry annoing kid/teen

 

regi... fight back and I'm being serious.

 

Either that way, or another, just keep yourself occupied.

 

You know what really motivated me ?
When she said 'Say one more thing and ill shut you up with my foot.'
I said 'Ill break your foot by the time you even touch my face with your foot'

 

would be easier to go your room and sleep or play aion or anything
i told u once some time ago and ill tell u again
do not argue with your parents.. u will never win

 

learn karate o mui tai and fight back, those primitive parents you have will someday regret all the shit they put you thru.