parent love

is it true that there is some kind of chain between parents and children which binds them together? or is it just a matter of time, how you are getting used to them and by time you are starting to love them?
“Mother died today. Or maybe yesterday; I can't be sure.” -this quote forced me to think about this thing

 

I'll let Aegis answer this for you.

 

This is totally an Aegis question. But I think it's natural to love your parents, unless they're really horrible to you. Which still I've known people to still love their parents more than anything, even after being really abused.

 

I believe that genetic parents has no real basis on anything, especially in this day and age. That is just my PERSONAL opinion, professionally I honestly never plan to come into this issue or ever need to voice my personal opinion.

I believe that experiances bind people together, and that family (if a good one) will generally relate many positive experiances with that person and get to know them very well. Get to feel out eachothers kinks, quirks and oddities and understand eachother better. In this world, honestly, everyone generally thinks rationally in their own terms... so say a family member really thought X on a topic, they could give you evidence and back it up and hey... maybe X wouldn't look so bad.

Also, I believe that family has a lot to do with being "unable to escape". Love them and yet at the same time sometimes they just annoy you to the point where you to rip off your mothers head for calling down for dinner for the umpteenth time. Or "oh god my dad won't shut up. He just won't shut up! Doesn't he get we don't wanna know about powertools?!?!". Sometimes experiances can hurt as well, with family that is, and generally you all learn to forgive eachother and live under the same roof again... and in return hurtful experiances outside can be brought into the home and you can talk to your family about it and feel better (generally..........speaking generally.).


And to expand on that hurt thing that I mentioned above... it must also be noted that we live with our families (generally) from birth or childhood onwards.... we were in our weakest times around these people. So generally we feel safe and we can get more vulnerable with them in my opinion. More vulnerable than with others, whos values/rules/etc are pretty much foriegn to us.

 

And there you go.

-- I could kind of relate this to owning a cat that you obtained as a kitten. That thing is gonna love the shit out of you because you're the one who feeds it, takes care of it, gives it a place to live. But once you start abusing it, it's going to eventually become afraid of you, to the point where once it sees you, it runs away. But at the same time, you're it's main source of "life". There could be a point in time where that "love" fades into dependance.

Thats just me though.

 

1000% agreed. There is of course a fluid scale of just how much B.S. anyone can take but usually that line is crossed very rarely.

 

Yeah, usually it isn't crossed. It really depends on the person with the parents. But once that line is crossed things can get pretty dirty, unfortunately.

 

Yeah .

 

I was slightly offended when you were asked to answer this and not me Q.Q
But then I remembered most people here never heard my intellectual rants because they were stupid and I just trolled instead.
I skimmed like the first paragraph of yours and decided to reply before reading the rest simply because I'm bored and its my day off.

I don't believe there is any genetic emotional "bond" between parents and their children. I know plenty of people, as well as myself who don't even have thoughts of their parents. I was raised by my father until I was 13? I hold no feelings what so ever for him, even anger. Granted for a long time I was angry but eventually you learn even that isn't worth it. I've been around kids. My nieces, nephews etc etc. You can tell when a child actually cares about someone, and when they're just doing it because they're a kid and they have to. That bond isn't born from nothing, its built by shared experiences just like any other human relationship.

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Break from college weeeee.
Aegis is banal.

 

ok aegis had posted lets wrap this thread up you guys
/lock

 

true that parents can be replaced eventually given the circumstamces, and personal experiences... yet we forget that we put our instincs in second place most of the time because we replace them with structured thinking. But by evolution, parents and childs develop a bond sorely for the purpose of the survival of the species. Remember that a child means the continuation of your blood trough time, and that is the main purpose of a species, regradless of our acomplishments.

So, the bond DO exist... yet we can forsake it given the context of our lives

 

My grandparents have always been more of parents to me than my real ones. I care about my real parents but as far as drumming up actual love or respect for them - it's kinda hard for me to do.

 

I can't relate to my parents, or understand them at all. So it's different for some people, such as myself.