Gamez Aion Dating Advice

Long story short, me and a guy I met and have had many good times with have been in a recent arguement in which he called me fabricated (when his friend told him I was lying about getting him something big, he believed her over me).

This isn't the first time we've fought, or the first time we've gone without talking to eachother. We have always gotten back together talking and being happy and positive with one another after the fights though.

This time I don't know what in the world is going on, its been a week now since we fought and I haven't heard from him yet.

I've sent him messages almost begging for closure (actually, yes, begging for closure) and he isn't responding! I don't know whether I should move on, or keep waiting. As I said this isn't the first time we've fought, but I have that feeling in my gut that this is it.



Added information!:

#1: In the past messages I've sent him asking for closure (which I have) he has answered without fail that he doesn't want me to go and he wants me.

#2: I've tried messaging him/leaving voice mails and everything and I have gotten no response. I've even sent a facebook friend invite and he has neither accepted nor declined it (It still says "Awaiting friend confirmation".

#3: In response to him calling me fabricated I sent him a HUGE message explaining everything in great detail that I am NOT fabricated! I've proven my innocence and yet I still haven't heard back from him...


Also this isn't meant as a self-pity thread, I am 100% confident with myself (Got the looks, education, money, family, anything I could ever want); but this guy just tugged my heart-strings the right way and I fell head-first...

I don't think I'd be able to "move on" for a while because that is the kind of person I am, yet the sooner I throw him in the dumpster the sooner I am over him.

;(

 

Be a bit more patient and give it time, don't seem overly clingy (like with the begging)

In my opinion though, it's your life.. don't spend it waiting in line <3

 

You need to face up that the guy is just not that into you. Furthermore, if he doesn't want to explain himself to you, he isnt worth your time to worry over this matter. Move on. You'll be much happier. :wink:

 

Please tell me this is real life, not those internet bullshit relationship.

 

True.. true... I should probably explain a bit more though...

The gift I tried to get him was to help him move out, and his friend said that I was lying... he lived with an abusive family that constantly puts him down and causes him to be severely depressed... so I offered to help him get out. (And I was never lying, and I proved it to him in a message, which he never replied too...)

It is just I am a really big humanitarian and my heart bleeds for people, I follow my instinct and try and help them the best I can. Luckily (sadly?) this time I ended up falling for him and then when we got to know eachother better I winded up getting totally knocked over when I heard his situation.

-Abusive family
-Comorbid adhd +ocd
-Threatened to be kicked out
-Still trying to get a diploma... no job or anything

He even told me once before me and this girl who told him I had lied were his only two friends.

So likewise... its very difficult for me to let go, my altruistic instincts and love for people is just horrible in situations like these. I would rather hear him tell me that and hurt me badly than not knowing and wanting so bad to help. It's easier to let go if you know there is nothing at all you can offer.

Real life, lol.

 

You cannot help people who do not want to be helped. My younger sister is a situation similar to this. I have moved her out 2 times only to have her go right back to him and for me to be turned into the bad guy.
As much as I love my sister and cannot understand why she would stay in this situation, I've come to realize that until she is truly and completely mentally ready to be free of this situation, she will stay in it.
You're quite young to be getting yourself involved in such a sticky situation such as this. My advice to you is to let it go for now. If he is not speaking to you to let you know he is not interested, he more than likely feels too uncomfortable/lacks the maturity to address you one on one.

 

or maybe this guy is just taking you for granted.. that guys loves to be courted much? dunno. >.<
:whistling:

 

Reading what you said...he's probably all messed up in the head. Probably suicidal? I think its unhealthy for you to be with him. You do have a kind heart, but people can take advantage of that so be careful. My opinion and good luck to you.

 

all i can say is move on.

 

Move on girl like we did! Too much stress causes olderness! . . .

 

True... true... I definately agree with that point.

It just would be easier to know he doesn't want help if he would just tell me to go away... that would make it so easy to say "well he doesn't want it so why even bother".

True I am pretty young... no doubt, this isn't my favourite situation at all... met a guy and hit it off majorly nice and then find out about a whole warehouse of problems and then try and help and then.... silence!

Yeah he probably does lack the maturity... =\

It's very possible! He may just be out for taking the condo, why else would "everything about me" be fabricated even if the condo was a lie?

He's met my entire family, been over to my own house, knows all the work I do, has seen me on campus multiple times.... he knows so much about me that him even daring to say that puts the question in my head...

"Is that the only reason you said you had wanted me?"

Yeah... he honestly is most likely messed in the head. I don't think hes suicidal (I actually was scared of this before and he told me directly he would never!)

Kind hearts being taken advantage of... definately not unheard of. Probably relates to the above post where I am wondering if the only reason he was with me would be to use me.

(Added: He even admitted the first reason he met me was over an item! What the hell! He said the feelings changed though... and I mean if hes honest enough to admit the first one would he lie about the second? I don't even know...)

True... definately looking towards that option.

 

If you're not worth his time, then he's not worth your love

Just my two cents

 

snippeeeed

 

I had an "internet bullshit relationship" before. She goes by michi and she plays Gamez with me, name is Catastrophy.

...but now we're together irl and we're one of the happiest couples you'd ever see.
Internet relationships can be just as good, if not better, than real life one.
As they say........

internetz is srs biznezz
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it's soooo cute too ^^

 

cool story bro !

 

Its better to move on than to wait that man for nothing, he don't deserve your love and the concern that you are giving to him.

And when the time comes, when he realize, he had lost you.

 

Agree 100%, I know a few people who met over the internet and now are happily married or have been together for years. You can meet someone on the internet who is honest about who they are. Not everyone you met on the internet is someone who is lying about who they are or how they feel. It's really cool to hear of another one that is successful. Congrats to you and your girlfriend.


@butter

Personally, the choice is ultimately up to you. My opinion is to give up on the guy. If he has someone like you who is willing and wanting to be with him and he blows you off, and doesn't answer your calls etc. then it means that he was never really interested. It seems like he was just more interested in playing with your feelings to get things out of you. It's really sad to hear that guys do this sort of thing to girls. As a guy I've had girls do this to me, and I know how it feels. My advice is to just move on. He's not worth it and you will find someone much better suited, and much more willing to show you that he wants to be with you. Someone who isn't in it just to get things out of it.

 

As for my own experience, a guy would always give a damn for someone he really loves and cares. He won't ignore a girl long and sooner or later sure he'll give in and beg for each other to make up no matter what the situation is (even if he won't say it directly, but surely he'll miss his girl and doesn't want the distant feeling).
I think he's an immature guy who doesn't even value how special you are. ^^ I believe all girls are special and never should be treated that way.

I think its best for you to let him go and move on. I mean, come on. For one week he won't even do something as to save both your relationship? You need to wake up and fill all your guts.
Let him be then maybe sooner, he'll realize what he'd been doing is wrong.
Forget about your own feelings and what you're heart is saying. It'll just prolong your suffering. Better you sever the ties then maybe he'll realize your worth and its not you're loss. It's his.
Forget about him and find someone else who deserves you and someone who understands you.

 

If things really aren't working out and if you've often had problems before I would say move on, but it's your life and in the end you're the one with the final say. You really need to do what you feel is best for you