Become or Change ?

That would happen with me too certain times, for example I started watching gossip girl cause I heard that everyone was crazy about it, but I started loving it so I keep doing it e.e. I might like some things that everybody else likes, but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't watch a show just cause everyone says it's not good, or something.

Let me give you the top example - Justin Bieber. I'm not saying I like the guy's music or anything, but everyone seems to hate him just because everyone's like "omg he's so gay, look at him". Isn't that stupid or anything. I like the guy's style, I don't know about his songs, but I'm not making fun of him the whole time anyway q.q
But, this thing with some kids that only do what others do, let's say the only songs they know are those that the others give them, and they see that everyone listens to 3 doors down, or the Killers, or anything, and it doesn't even suit their whole style.

I mean, I used to have a song of Avenged Sevenfold in my phone so I sent it to a friend, and a couple months later I saw one girl having it on her phone, along with the rest Britney Spears and Justin Timberlake songs T_T (no offense to the singers anyway ).

What I'm trying to say -with those really specific examples- , is that when someone tries too hard to become what he or she thinks is gonna be accepted by the rest, he might lose the whole game in the end? Oh and.. about those girls that try to act stupid or slutty cause they want everyone to like them, that's dumb. q.q

 

It's simple. Think of it in these terms. More than 80% of the world is amazingly extremely stupid. By not fitting in, you aren't in the "minority percent" but rather in say the 80 percentile. You make smart decisions. If you think about how bad that 80% truly is, it actually feels really good not being included in that group of people.

 

I wanna become something and change me to something?

 

Indeed.

I am a type of person that loves being unique, different or whatever term you call it. I just believe it's how each and everyone of us makes our own character, personality, identity and impact to people we're encountering everyday. So I guess I answered the question, what Becoming is for me.

Change for me is pretty easy to read between its lines. I change when I have to, not because I want to fit in or to be belong but because I know I have to do it for my own sake, for my own peace of mind. There are things that you have to change not for others but for yourself, alone.

For example, being hard to everyone will lead you nowhere. You can't have friends if your attitude is something like, Pushing them away, bossy, or whatsoever. So a change must be done. Not to simply gain friends, but to simply make yourself worthy to be a friend and in the end, you'll see yourself sitting with someone and not drinking a coffee alone.

 

In my opinion this should be the other way around. To become is something that will happen with out any realization but to change, that must be decided. I choose to become an artist, but then I became a professional artist, I choose to do drugs, I became a drug addict etc.

Edit: I believe it is better to not necessarily aim to change yourself but rather come to an understanding of one's self. It's impossible to change without understand and when you do come to an understanding, you'll realise there isn't much to change. Your identity is like evolution (or even software), it will simply adapt to the situation of your environment (the hardware). Even as you've read this, you've adapted yourself by gaining knowledge of another persons view, from there comes understanding.

 

From all the things I've read, I believe that only this sums up what I'd like to say. And that's the reason of why people hate me, bu whatever. As long as I am myself and I don't care, I'm good with it.

 

everything seems to be so good in this forums..
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@regiix
I think both are transitions from one state to another, and both are somewhat dependant on one another... the difference to me at least, is that wherter you like it or not, you will "become" someone in the future (undetermined).. someone good, or someone bad in any aspect you might think of. And change is something that you can (sometimes) decide if its gonna happen or not because you are aware of it, its your choice.

Now the second part of this, is that to "change" is part of "becoming"... eventually every change you made will be added to your "becoming" result.

 

im go for CHANGE

 

nah. trust me reg. dont change anything. you are what you are. you dont have to change yourself for just some bunch of people, coz one day, when you wake up. you might dont know yourself anymore. based on my experience.

 

That was very confronting o: <3
Guess im either too considerate or too selfish :l

 

That's not bad, because if you care too much about the others, that won't guarantee your survival as an individual.

 

You just earned the title 'regiix3's trusted friends'

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