Soul Mates... Do you believe you have one out there?

maybe ..... >.<

 

The butterfly feeling or the novelty that excitement of being with a new person usually wears off because you get used to them I suppose. That's what I've experienced in the past at least, but I don't think that's what ends the relationship it gets replaced with familiarity and comfort you don't get from any other person and that in itself isn't something people should take for granted. I guess that's what I'm most curious about with couples that have been together for a really long time. How they keep that spark. My step dad's parents are honestly the best example of this. They still look at each other so sweetly, like a couple that only just started dating, when they've been together since they were 16 and are now in their 80's.

It's not about them being the exact copy of you. That's not what a soul mate is. It's about them being the better half of yourself. Someone that makes you a better person when you're with them in all aspects because they "complete" you i guess however corny that sounds. That's what I've always thought of a soul mate as being. And as for thinking the same things as your partner/wife/husband being boring...I'm guessing you've never been in a long term relationship? Because once you've been with someone for a while and that person becomes the person you spend most of your time with, you literally become the creepy "we finish each others sentences" couple. It's the same as if you're with a friend all the time and it's not necessarily a bad thing because no matter how similar two people are you're never going to find an exact copy of yourself and they'll still find ways to surprise you.

 

I have been in a long relationship, and that happened actually. As I said, there's no such thing as soulmates, only people you love spending time with. After all, you love someone for who he is, and he is defined by his actions, which means you actually love the person for his actions. Also, we love for ourselves, take love just as something like fun, it does good things to you. That's why some people say that in order to love someone, you have to love you first. Anyway, derailed a bit too much from the topic, so... you can always be for the life with someone you like spending time with, enjoy and not regret the time spent with him/her, but that person isn't your "soulmate". (We actually don't have a spiritual part, called "soul", you know, that thing that raises when we die, not true at all)

 

it all depends on how we humans interpret the word 'souldmate' or how we believe in it

 

That's very true. But I don't believe in the "soul" part literally. I believe in the meaning as a whole. That there is someone or maybe more than one person that brings out the good in you. But I think a soul mate is just that, your best friend, someone you love spending your time with, someone who brings out the best in you and pushes you to your fullest potentials instead of pulling you down, someone who understands you and accepts your good points and your bad points. I definitely agree though about loving a person for their actions, that's exactly what makes me fall for a person over and over again ^ ^ .

 

My nipples are itchy from the heat.

 

i once had a girl that did everything i liked :O was awesome she was good at cod too <3, everything was all perfect and lovely dovey xD i was gonna give her a dimond ring i had.. than.. she slept with my friend, ever since then i care about relation ships o--o just teh fun of them when the fun ends.. i end the relationship :3

 

D: she was definitely ....not the right person for you

 

Oh, we think the same on that last part then xD.

I like to think of meeting your Soul Mate to be influenced by the term of karma xD If you do good things in your life, you'll meet them faster, maybe even your "soul mate" will have a good personality when you meet them too. If you do bad things, the further the distance between you and your soul mate. Just my thoughts xD

 

no. i dont think i have a soul mate, and even if i would have id never meet her

 

I found yours:

 

Nahh, I dont beleive in soulmates, because before a mutual relationship starts between a man and woman, both are strangers in terms of their attitude, beliefs and understanding, and love starts when those 3 terms are met, because if there's one missing, then its infatuation. (just my own opinion,no offense ) If there really is soulmate, there's no ups and downs in that relationship, of which it helps strengthen the bond between the couple.

 

hmm, not necessarily. Some people start out friends and the other things come later after you've already learnt a lot of things about each other. I don't really know why people keep saying you will have no ups and downs with a soul mate. Just because someone is your "soul mate" doesn't mean that they aren't human, conflicts begin because of just that reason. We're people we make mistakes, even the best relationships have conflict it's inevitable.

 

Soul mates don't exist.It's a fact.If you doubt it, you can ask this guy.

 

We'd better ask you directly D:

 

There will always be ups and downs in a relationship, even with a soul mate, the ups and downs show how strong the relationship is and whether the 2 individuals can handle all of the obstacles being thrown at them, some relationships don't have any issues, and when one finally does come it ends everything. Other relationships can have obstacles much more than others and are able to come out together, those are the relationships that last. If you can get through anything as a couple then it builds the strength and it shows how perfectly compatible those 2 individuals are.
Love also doesn't have to begin with those 3 things, they of course are built over the relationship and usually before, but there is a thing called love at first sight, i know with my partner, the love was there before we were even together. It took us both a little while to realize we needed to be together, but in the back of our minds we both sorta knew that we were the ones for eachother. Just a feeling you get. The butterfly feeling you get when you talk to them... that feeling. Its the feeling that never fades. Thats how you know. As for attitude, beliefs and understanding, those 3 things are extremely necessary in a relationship, and the person who is perfect to you will be perfect for you in all of those catagories.

With us, we started out best friends and things later progressed into the loving partnership that we have. We learned everything about eachother, literally everything, there is nothing that has ever been hidden. Being able to fully accept one another, that is also one of the necessary steps in finding ones soul mate. We've had our ups and downs, some worse than others of course, all relationships have the bumps, but i wouldn't change the bumps that our relationship has had because its made us the couple that we are today. Its given us the connections that we have today. We are both humans and we've made our mistakes, but i wouldn't change a single one because its shown us how strong we are, how good our connections are with one another, and how perfect we are for eachother in the way that we can handle anything the other throws. I love you baby<3

 

mmmm It depends in how you interpretate the concept... If you mean it as someone that complement you, in a way that he/she has/lacks what you have/lacks... then just by the sheer number of persons in the world, its just a matter of probabilities that there should be someone like that for you.

But if its seen as kind of "the one" person in your life that will always love you and be with you and bla bla bla... Then I say no. First, the whole feeling of "The One", it can be anyone as long as the feeling is strong enough. Second, every relatioship requires work to be sustained in time. So the concept of "the one" completely denies that, because it will mean you wont have to work to sustain your relationship, because it will pre-determinated.

 

Iam amazed you did n't go suicidal thats a deep hole to get out from your a strong person.

 

I would say ....NO

 

"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life"

Pretty accurate quote of what I think a soul mate is ^ ^