oh my god

After having a kid who adores me and after all this time, I realized I am attracted to men. I feel terrible because I don't know how my wife would feel if she finds out. Should I leave my kid and my wife on their own and live my life as a fantasy or should I man up and be there for my family?

This is a serious discussion thread, I would appreciate if mods do their job and keep the trolls out thanks.

 

Such things are complicated . Last thing you have to do is to ask for online help ... from peoples who does know anything about your situation . Anywai you should take responsability about your child .

 

I think u should talk to ur wife about it since she is a part of ur life. Together u may be able to find a way and live with this but i'd say in NO WAY leave ur child... its not his/her fault that this happened to u and u cant just let her/him grow up w/o a father , it would be terrible.

Gl with ur decision.

 

I know, but I work as a costumer service representative in T-mobile and I work from home most of the time, so I don't have much friends and I wanted to ask for some online points of view. Just to clarify this has nothing to do with my looks nor complexes. I am half Dominican half American and I am very good looking.

 

i think u are just messing around with us.

 

You feel the troll too don't you?

 

I think your wife would be happier knowing the truth. There will come a point where she will be able to sense you are no longer attracted to her which will make her even more unhappy.

Think about the situation in reverse. If that were the case for her, would you want her to tell you the truth? If it were me I know I would prefer knowing over a false happiness.

You can still continue to support both of them once the truth is out. It will just be a different kind of support.

 

thank you so much for this advice, I will think about it tonight and I will decide tomorrow. I need to grow a pair and finally let her know, she's been the best wife ever I have to admit that but she doesn't deserve someone like me. I don't want my kid to know anything not until he is old enough to understand daddy's sexual orientation.

 

Good luck to you. And I agree with the first replies. Never leave your own flesh and blood. It is yours and your responsibility, be happy at least that you have and been able to produce your own child, right? Others specially those who are homosexual they tend to adopt just to have one to complete their family. Talk to your wife and avoid thinking about the what ifs or speaking for her side. Be honest and tell her the truth and she will tell you what she thinks. Right now, all you got to do is focus on doing the right thing, your plans in the future and set aside the what ifs.

 

Well errr.. this sounds like a troll thread but I guess I'll try to speak my mind on it aswell maybe it helps. First of all it's complicated to give you the most correct answer for your problem since it would be easier if it was someone that knows you and your wife to give you advice anyhow, I think, like was said before, you shouldn't leave your child you made her come to this world now you have to take of her and give her what she deserves, it's not her fault you turned to be homosexual and leaving her would just make you a coward. About your wife indeed the best thing you can do is talk to her tell her the truth, which she probably knows already, and find a solution together it may be hard but you need to set up your mind and take things to the next stage. After all when one door closes another few open so w/e you get into there's a way out. Just hope you didn't cheat on her before thinking about this. -.-

 

wow, that's tough... if this is real, you probably need to man up, you got a kid, even if you no longer love your wife at least respect what you had and what you have right now...

it freaking disturbing to flip tables too late but you have realized you are no longer single and have responsibilities in life.

also don't even think of cheating on her, if i was your wife i'd probably flip knowing this...

 

It will be pretty confusing for her too...still...if this carries on without your wife to know...you might get it out of control and do some unpleasant things to your child :\...I know it happens so it's not that i doubt your strength to control yourself but it might happen someday....
All there's left to do...talk with your wife and be sure to make her understand of the situation...not to freak out in the end...Good luck man...

 

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