I'm A Loner :<

fear not.... ok.. -.-
dont overstress yourself because you're not the only one having this kind of issue. There are types of people who struggles to make friends, while there are those who can make friends easily. I experienced the same thing long ago....hahahha... and well now I'm laughing and giving thanks to my old self. First there are certain obstacles that kept me... and might be keeping you from making friends... The first one is English. English isn't my first language so this made it difficult for me to communicate and make friends. Furthermore, having doubts to myself such as, "What if they laugh at my English?" , "What if I don't understand what they are talking about? , "What if? What if?"... Secondly, online games... instead of going out with friends and participating in after school activities, I run my way back home just to play games which eventually punched my grades down and getting labeled as a "loner".

You know, having friends in school also boost your academic learning. Well, it also depends on what kind of people you hang out with, because there are those who lures you to bad things. There are solutions if you want to make friends, and certainly smoking weeds isnt one of them (>.> staring at Clubs). Participating in after school clubs, volunteering can certainly help. If you lack confidence... dont be!...be open, be yourself, be positive.

 

Holy shit this thread is way too long and pathetic for me to read through everything so I'm just going to skip to the end and give you some advice. Simple advice at that.

Just approach people and say something.

Once you graduate high school you will regret it if you didn't spend your life wisely before that point. Everything changes. You will probably never see any of those friends/enemies again. Social status throughout school is meaningless, and you don't get a chance to go back and re-live that time. Once you graduate, everything gets harder, more stressful, and everything you do is remembered. At this point if you haven't developed social skills, confidence, and all that goes with, everything will only be that much stressful for you.

Confidence is key. Without confidence, people don't respond to you in the same way, and without people responding to you, you don't gain confidence. Its pretty much just a spiraling pit of depression and agony until YOU decide to do something about it. No, not everyone will want to be your friend, but if you actually TRY and put yourself out there, some people will respond positively. People responding positively will give you a boost of self-esteem. That boost of self-esteem will make you do more, and more people will in turn notice you. This is easier than people think but it requires actually risking something. School is the best time to risk, people won't remember you in a few years, and if theres any time to learn some things about yourself, its now.

 

Ok thanks for the advices/tips guys. Some of you are so nice to say something about being alone, and some of you showed me about future and I really appreciate it guys.

Please don't tell me I'm "dumb" (<--I allready know that), cuz it makes me more like I don't want to check this thread again. I just wanted to share my life story. It's just so hard for me to do such things. What you guys also don't know about me is that I am short and I am bad at everything like P.E., Math and Chemistry. I feel like I'm so bad at everything.

 

I'm supporting you , don't worry.

 

Make the things you're bad at into a joke. For example, say you're in P.E. playing a sport you're really bad at, instead of being embarrassed and letting everyone laugh at you for it, laugh at yourself, and say "wow I'm bad at this!" and just play it off, keep talking to people anyway.

Friends like friends regardless of whether or not that friend is bad at something, if you let them get to you then you'll feel bad, probably have a bad day, and you'll do even less to get yourself out of your situation. On the other hand, if you take a lighthearted approach to it, people will just accept that you're not good at whatever you're doing but they'll find out you're a fun, humorous guy to be around, and they won't care about your shortcomings, just that you're a friend. In this sense, just like I emphasized in my last post, people will start laughing at you less and instead laughing with you, enjoying your company and in turn making you happier and more confident.

 

Just gonna say this: Back in like 6/7th grade or so I was probably one of the least "popular" kids in my school. I wasn't very confident in anything I was doing. I didn't have very many friends, I wasn't getting very good grades despite the fact that I'm actually quite intellectually gifted (though you may not believe it). I didn't really like life that much back then I stayed home a lot more and had a lot less of a life than I do now.

Since like 9th grade I started making everything into jokes and started to be seen as funny, which in turn made people like me. I have lots of friends now, almost everyone enjoys talking to me (I'm that guy that everyone can be friends with), and I'm probably one of the most confident, outgoing people in my school. My grades are mid-high 90s in all classes, which makes me in the top of my class. I'm not really bad at anything in particular, but embarrassing myself in front of my friends was/is always fun (as long as it's not gross). Hence why I love to embarrass myself on forums like these aswell! It's not really embarrassing though, since I've become a bit impervious to things like that >_>

What I'm trying to say is everything becomes better with confidence.

 

D'aww, I learned something new about Dementa today.

Pretty much this though, I was a popular kid when I was really young (like 8 years old), then I moved from the northern united states to the south. People started making fun of me because of my accent, so I became a bit withdrawn, and then it only got worse for a few years. P.E. made me want to shrivel up and die because I was really bad at basketball and I always felt like an idiot after the class saw how bad I was.

After a few years of putting up with it though I decided just to joke about myself, because I enjoyed it, and that actually made other people want to be friends with me. People started talking to me a lot, I went from being the unknown loser in 6th grade to knowing the entirety of both of my classes in 7th grade (we had several classes but it was always the same people, but I got placed in a different class halfway through because me and a friend were too distracting to the class, this is how much fun I had that year), until finally in 8th grade I was amongst one of the most popular kids in my entire school, simply because I didn't care, and I was happy and had fun. So many phone numbers from girls that year too c:

Unfortunately I moved again right after 8th grade and I met a lot of people as soon as I moved but I wasn't really near as outgoing and so I wasn't popular in high school, but I at least had fun with the friends I met.

tl;dr - I learned to stop caring and have fun, people loved me for it. In high school I didn't try to meet people and I still regret it because those years are gone forever now, so don't waste your opportunity.

 

huuun.. kumi's hereeee

 

I guess I'm lucky to be blessed with a naturally athletic body build. Even without working out at all, I was never bad at sports xD though basketball is definitely not my strong suit. I'm more of a badminton/hockey kinda guy.

I'm waaay too lazy to play a school sport anyway. I just play pick-up sports with my friends sometimes when we're bored and have nothing better to do.

 

I am not a boring person in school like (not talking at all)
I am funny too in school like the only clown in class, everyone laughs if I say something funny and act something funny. I do also talk to my "inclass friends" during break.

I'm starting to realize I'm not alone at all! I just don't have real friends lol! :>

 

If you're good at something, use it to help other people. You could be really great at english or performing arts or creative arts, there are always other people struggling with something you're fortunately good at.I'm not saying that you should give all your answers out during a test (you could) but actually help people, you dont need a golden image to get friends, you become more prone to gaining fake friends; They only hang around you because of your status.

See, in grade 3-6, i was the asian because i could do every maths problem and throughout my entire school life, ive been gifted with unbelievable spelling skills (ability to spell roller coaster in grade prep, yay) but these were my only source of popularity, and i did have people befriending me, but naive me only believed in their friendly mask.

Im in highschool now, i have my primary and highschool school friends on facebook, and already theyre failures. I thought i was able to help and be great friends with them, now a lot of them are condescending and contradicting morons, some at the age of 14 dress like 'theyre asking for it' and some have even engaged in sexual activity. Some are robbing shops and being banned from suburbs and some just simply cant understand the elements of writing a simple argument, and this is due to lack of devotion to learn, not because they 'just dont get it'. Not sure why people are so fond and inspired by such disgusting abominations
Don't go dumb for anyone, education > everything, hierarchy is nothing in reality, popularity is just a source of survivability for your social life, some people dont even need friends to progress.

Year 7, i befriended EVERYONE and i wasnt confident, seeming as i was the only person from my primary school who went to this school, but all i had to do was be extremely positive and ask general questions to generate conversations. Eventually, 90% of the year level talked about me, and this was based on positivity, why? Because if you're nice to others, others will publicise and notice.

Ew its like i just bragged about myself.
If you want friends, nobody's gonna just walk up to you and be inclusive like what the teachers say. Idk whats gonna get you friends but as cliche as it sounds, be positive.

Tip: Sassiness and Sarcasm, majority enjoy them, these definitely helped me hah

walloftextfail

 

Walls of text, sarcasm, bullies, trolls, drama and weeds are in this thread.

Having a real friends is easy, all you need is to do is socialize and talk.

 

Wow regii could you be any more smug?
Jeez. Asians always bragging about their math skills and positivity.



JustkiddingIloveyou

 

I'm good at math too

 

Ily too. I almost called you chichiue.

Its alright though, i got 56% on my Directed Numbers test last year and continued getting Bs, Cs and Ds on all my maths test.
Somehow, i managed to get As on my exams, hm.

 

You gotta be good at math when you're running a fish and chip shop. lol i kid

 

Being a loner means you're using the "Advanced search" to find friends. This pretty much sums it up...

 

0 results so far

 

......................

 

When you search for posts with your own name in them you find stuff you never read before

http://forum.gameznetwork.com/f16/coffee-time-alente-32899/index19.html#post349833

I has le sad D:



... I wonder if it's still his goal o.o