My new RL problem...

Hi there!
I was thinking about posting it somewere and as long as I'm anonymus here and still participating in this "community" I have to ask something...
Having a big problem now, its first time Im in situation like this, so:
I have like 3 big exams on university next week, and I suppose that one close related person of my Love's (she's actually a woman, and yes she needs me pretty much) family is dying. I dunno what to do, should I stay close to her these days, or reconcile her with my learning time. It's all about my future, all about my live- I cant resign from both, I need to make it up!
Tell me, please- what would u do in situation like mine is?
I just need some ways of solution so I can make my own which could be related to opinion of someone of you.

Please, dont flame here. I need opinions of adults who are experienced and quite wise.
Best regards...

PS. Im not expecting any ways on uderstanding me, good words etc. I need real facts!
I know I should make it my own way, with own mind. Im just looking for some help!

 

Hmm, is it a long-distance relationship? Or, see each other often?

 

well time management. what you mean by stay by her side? well for example youre gonna go to her house and comfort her right?? i mean you guys wont be kissing and hugging all the time.. so for the time that youre there maybe you could at least study a lil bit. if she loves you im sure she'll understand. since both things are important you have to figure out a way how they will both work for you at the same time. honey those 3 exams are important too. think if you fail. all the more you will stay longer in college all the more problems you will have in the future. iono if im making any sense but i hope you get what i mean.

unless your paying for your own school and she also needs the money.. >.>

 

university First, and next The Girl.

 

i understand u bro...

but try to explain her that u need to study for ur 3 exams... i know she will understand

 

or if its a long distance relationship.. then priority comes first. soo ask yourself which weighs more o.o

 

Well, yeah. University would come first, since it really does affect your life greatly. Although, she'd also need comfort, if you could set time apart, even if a little it'd be great for her. But, I think she'll understand the spot you're in. Just be supportive whenever you can.

Like... if you could stay over at her house and study there, then that'd be good. Both for you and her.

 

If she is an understanding person, I would go do your exams.. and comfort her when you not doing exams. Go for being successful cause it will be more beneficial on your part. If things between you two get stronger and more initimate, atleast you can support her and yourself ..

Btw - Wishing ya luck on those exams.

 

wow...that's tough
it's your future vs your love... don't let one take over the other, i think she doesn't need you all day with her so maybe you can spend half of the day with her and the rest of the day you can spend studying. If you still don't have time you can try to stay up late studying just for this week so you can study. Plus, you can arrange with her friends to spend time with her when your not with her. A final solution that should be the last option is to try to talk with her hoping she will understand... not sure though it would work.
i'm really sorry for you man, hope i could help..and i hope you can get over with this!!


~adicktion

 

Go to school, but try to do both. If she doesn't understand, you should be questioning if this is the person you want to be with. I can only assume that this is a serious relationship, or you wouldn't be questioning your education's value over your girlfriend. But even if she was your wife, you would still need to prioritize your education, for both your futures.